WASHINGTON (WUSA9) -- A bride who was upset that she only got $100 from a guest and her date for her wedding wrote a Facebook message voicing her disapproval. The message,which is now on the Huffington Post, calls the bride "bad-mannered" among other things.
The Huffington Post received an email from the guest, Tanya, with the full message and posted it in its wedding section. The guest tells HuffPost that the bride was an acquaintance of hers and that she considered the cash gift enough since she's trying to pay off thousands of dollars in student loans.
Here's the message from the bride, courtesy of Huffington Post:
"Hi Tanya, how are you? I just want to know is there any reason or dissatisfaction of Mike's and I wedding that both you and Phil gave 50$ each? In terms of the amount we got from you both was very unexpected as a result we were very much short on paying off the reception because just for the cocktail + reception alone the plate per person is 200$ (as per a normal wedding range with open bar is about) and Mike and I both have already paid for everything else including decor, photography, attire etc and didn't expect we had to cover that huge amount for reception as well. As I know you both live together and work, so I did not see any reason for that amount, when it comes to your wedding hopefully you'll know what I mean. I hope for the best as from what we receive is what we will give back. Anyways, good luck on everything. [all sic]"
There was no indication that the bride and Tanya had discussed a cash gift or an "acceptable" amount of cash.
One HuffPost blogger said it was "one of the most classless stories she's ever heard."
So what do wedding experts say about wedding gifts and etiquette?If you click over to online bride guide The Knot, you will see under the Wedding Gifts section that you should never ask for specific monetary (or other) gifts. If your guest asks you, however, then you can tell him or her what you prefer for a gift. The Knot also reminded one bride in a forum that wedding gifts are not mandatory, and any gift should be acknowledged gracefully, preferably with thank you notes or cards. Furthermore, the Knot says that the amount of money you spend on your wedding "has absolutely no bearing on what kinds of gifts you are 'supposed' to get." The Knot, and other wedding resources, also suggest while you're planning your wedding to budget your money...and stick to the plan.
What do you think about the bride's Facebook message to her guest?