WASHINGTON, D.C. (WUSA) - A sex researcher and educator for Indiana University and the Kinsey Institute has penned a new book about re-igniting the spark if its fizzles... And keeping it burning for a lifetime.
"We kind a do the right thing as far as respect one another... and make it last. Respect, and we're best friends. And we've been married for 25 years. "
That's what the Johnsons told our news crew tonight about lasting love and intimacy.
Debbie Herbernick , author of 'Sex Made Easy, Your Awkward Questions Answered' says they've got it right. Good communication and closeness are the secrets of couples who make it last.
But that doesn't mean there won't be speed bumps in your sex life along the way.
Exhaustion from child rearing, health problems like knee or back pain, erectile dysfunction for men and the hot flashes of menopause for women can all affect libido and how couples feel about one another.
Herbernick says- don't avoid the issues- talk about them head on. That can keep the rest of the relationship from crumbling.
And be open to new ways of doing things in the bedroom. She even has a chapter called "sexploration" , encouraging people to find inspiration from books, magazines, movies- or exotic locations.
Herbernick says studies done at the Kinsey Institute show there's no cut-off age when people shouldn't expect a rewarding sex life.
They've interviewed people in their 80's and beyond who are still active.